stay away from the water cooler

did this just happen?

so there i was at work today, talking with the guy who's one further up on the totem pole. nice guy, very laid back, gives me plenty of autonomy while still telling me what to do (good since i'm kinda new here), showing me pictures of his 4-year-old twins (so cute)... my blogmate calls to tell me about the lats guy at the gym being a show-off again, i start to laugh, work guy wants to know what's so funny. i try to explain. work guy starts to inquire into blogmate's dating life. i try to avoid situation politely by saying something like single, having been on some dates, trying to pretend like i don't know every miniscule detail. then work guy starts on monologue on how hard it is to meet people, and how he thinks my blogmate should, basically, use j-date. he actually logged on and started trying to find a good match, telling me he doesn't think romance is necessary, that arranged marriages are fine, and all you need to do is find someone to have babies with. he looked at his upcoming work schedule to find out when he and my blogmate would next be working together so that he could tell her there's nothing creepy about online dating.

i'm unsure how to receive this advice-which-is-not-really-for-me. on one hand, this guy might be a fun male gossip friend. he did tell some funny stories about his friend, the gay new york doctor who took a job in (of all places) neenah, wisconsin (minority, anyone??). or about exchanging cultural festivals with another friend in which his friend would join the jewish folk dancing and he would in turn march in the hispanic section of the gay pride parade. this makes me think he might be cool. however, he also told me at some point that he needs to dominate relationships and likes women to be submissive and that women don't often do the job that we do because the hours are hard and they are attached to their babies. this makes me think he might be less cool. i'm torn. i kind of wish i had been a little busier at work today.